The weekly walk
December 11, 2018
There was a night a few years ago when Caroline got frustrated about something—I don't remember what—we went for a walk outside, and talked it over.
The phones stayed home.
Since that night, we've made a point of taking a lap around Lake Merritt once/week, usually on Tuesday night. We don't do it every week, but when we miss a Tuesday, one or the other proposes an alternate time.
We keep this appointment because it's important.
A lot of fights begin with someone not feeling heard. I think perhaps 90% of relationship arguments wouldn't happen if (1) there was a regular forum where it was acceptable to have difficult conversations, and (2) both people listened, free from distraction.
Easy advice, hard to follow.
Maybe Festivus isn't such a bad idea after all?